/ The Daisy Foundation with Beth Owen

Why Prepare For Birth? AKA ‘It all goes out the window anyway’ or ‘They will tell me what to do’.

As soon as you announce your pregnancy you will doubtless have many well-meaning family, friends and random acquaintances telling you their birth stories. And it’s unlikely many of these will be positive, encouraging and making you feel more excited about the actual birth!

In amongst the stories will be tales of birth plans ‘going out of the window’, or maybe that no one looked at them when it came to actually having the baby. Sometimes it’s almost like a private joke amongst those who have had a baby – the naïve first time parents writing a plan.

Maybe you have spoken to people who approached birth with the attitude of ‘they will tell me what to do’. After all the midwives and doctors looking after you are the professionals, right? They do this every day and you might be doing this for the first or second time.

So why should you bother spending time and money on antenatal classes?

1.Understanding your choices

Often one of the most significant things people take away from my antenatal classes is that they have a choice. It’s really quite sad and concerning that hearing a vaginal examination can be accepted or declined is a revelation to so many. Of course, for some birthing people there are no concerns – yes it’s a bit uncomfortable and maybe embarrassing but it’s something we do. For others it’s a trigger and can result in real anxiety and fear around birth.

Anything that happens in your maternity care is yours to accept or decline. Some things you don’t need to think about too much you are happy to accept others you might want to research a bit more or find out more about pros and cons or chances of outcomes. Ultimately though it’s always your choice. Just make sure it’s your INFORMED choice. Ask enough questions to find out what you need to to weigh up both sides and then decide what’s best for you and your baby. We’re all different and our care needs to reflect that.

2. Understanding birth

Let’s face it if you don’t understand what is going on the chances are you aren’t well placed to make those choices.

Gaining a good understanding of the basics of birth – the hormones, how your body works, what helps,  what hinders, how positions might help or why breathing and relaxation techniques can make a difference will help you figure out what to do if a curve ball comes your way. In the midst of labour you might not be best placed to do the thinking and ask the questions but if you already know the basics you’ll understand a bit more of what is happening so you can make quick decisions if you need to.

And if everything is going smoothly then chances are it’s because you are using that knowledge to keep you calm and in control, working with your body and your baby.

3. Knowing you have tools to help you

Even if you already plan to use medical pain relief there will be a good part of your labour where you will be using your own coping techniques before you are ready for the more medical options.

Knowing that you have breathing techniques for different stages of your labour, being confident that you can use positions or movement to make you more comfortable and help things progress, having practiced your relaxation so you can take yourself back there with your breathing and music will all help you approach birth feeling more positive and confident. Exactly what we want!

You will also be encouraged to think more about the anchors you will be using. If you attend Daisy Birthing classes our music, breathing, movement and dimly lit rooms are all part of the muscle memory learning and are all things you can easily bring into your birth room. Maybe you add in some partner massage or a room spray or even your favourite pillow to help you.

4. Partner support

Having a confident birth partner by your side can make so much difference to your birth experience. Many partners might feel anxious about birth. Unsure about seeing their partner in pain, unsure how they can do anything, not wanting to get in the way, say the wrong thing or maybe even worried about how squeamish they might be.

Coming along to an Active Birth Workshop or Daisy Parent course means that you learn about birth together and your birth partner knows all about how birth works too. They also will know the breathing, the positions and a whole host of ways to support and encourage you. Plus you’re learning together which means lots of chance to talk through the options. You can figure out together what  is important to you, where you can compromise and where you can’t. Ultimately this means you have a strong advocate by your side. If your voice isn’t strong then your partner’s can be. Doing antenatal classes together helps partners feel so much more confident that they will be able to make suggestions, ask questions and help you.

5. Support

Support in classes comes in two forms. When you join an antenatal class you are there with others pregnant in the same local area, due around the same time. These are the people you can journey with through pregnancy, birth and as far beyond as you want. They are the ones struggling with night feeds, not sure why their baby is crying, desperately trying to figure out this whole parenting thing and so much more besides. And who understands? They people right there in it with you. Having a class WhatsApp group means you have someone to call on anytime (I’ve seen the middle of the night messages!) and people who get it. Not there to judge but there to hear you and offer support and tips.

Secondly you are getting me! If you sign up for Daisy classes (anywhere in the country) you don’t just turn up for the classes and walk away at the end of it. All of our teachers are so invested in the people who come to classes, we get to know you, we care and we are always here. I’m still in many of the WhatsApp groups although I keep quiet a lot of the time, and I’m always happy to help well after your classes have ended. I get messages from people in labour, breastfeeding worries, all sorts and that is absolutely part of what I do.

So come and join us. The labour room isn’t the place to start learning breathing or about birth. You want to arrive confident, positive and knowing you know enough to make your choices.

Maybe you know that a labour room isn’t for you? Is your birth going to be a Cesarean birth?

That doesn’t mean you don’t have choices, there are still lots of things that you can choose for your birth. That’s one for another day but don’t dismiss being involved in your birth or attending antenatal classes – just make sure you choose ones that will help you prepare.

https://thedaisyfoundation.com/beth-owen/

/ The Daisy Foundation with Beth Owen

Welcome to The Daisy Foundation Harrow, Pinner, Ruislip and Northwood

Congratulations on your pregnancy or new baby!! Welcome to Daisy in the Harrow area.
I’m Beth and I am privileged to have been teaching Daisy classes and supporting families since February 2013.
I’m a local mum with 3 children born in 2008, 2012 and 2016 and I would love to support you on your journey.
As well as teaching Daisy Foundation classes I am a postnatal doula and co-chair of the Maternity Voices Partnership at London North West University Hospital Trust. You can find out more about my doula work and other workshops on my website http://www.nurturedmums.co.uk

I am passionate about supporting everyone preparing for birth or heading into parenthood. Whatever your preferences or feelings about birth I will help you understand your choices and ensure you have the techniques and tools to support you. The education you receive in my classes will all be evidence based and unbiased to allow you to figure out the right paths for you whether it’s thinking about your birth or your parenting choices.

Those who come to our classes might come because they want to do some pregnancy yoga, to try out some hypnobirthing, for antenatal education or to do baby massage or baby yoga. But everyone who comes finds Daisy classes give so much more than you would expect. Every class combines many elements to give a holistic approach to all our teaching and in every class you’ll find local mums and your ready made support group.

So whether this is your first baby or you’ve done this before, come and join us we’d love to welcome you into the Daisy community across the Harrow and Hillingdon area. Not sure which is the class for you? Just get in touch.

Daisy Birthing – A weekly antenatal class for expectant mums to help you enjoy pregnancy, stay mobile, learn about your changing baby and body and prepare for a confident birth. Our unique Active Antenatal method draws on elements of active birth, pregnancy yoga, hypnobirthing and antenatal education to create one very powerful combination. From easing pregnancy ailments, adapting to your changing body, preparing for birth and informing your own individual choices – we’ve got you covered.

Active Birth Workshop – A workshop for mum and her birth companion that will not only cover all of the basics of antenatal education and an active, informed birth but also give you both the space to prepare as a team and confidently plan for your baby’s birthing day. Our unique Active Antenatal Birth method draws on elements of traditional active birth, hypnobirthing and antenatal education to create one very powerful combination. From understanding the stages of labour to working with gravity to support your baby’s birth, massage for labour and informing your own individual choices – we’ve got you covered.

Daisy Parent– A comprehensive workshop series for expectant parents designed to ensure you have all the education, tools and support you could need as you prepare confidently for your upcoming birth and the early days of caring for your new baby. Our entirely comprehensive Daisy Parent format draws on elements of active birth, hypnobirthing, parentcraft and traditional antenatal classes to create one very powerful combination.  From birth plans to massage in labour, informed choice to packing hospital bags and feeding your baby to changing their nappy – we’ve got you covered.

Daisy Baby Tinies– A weekly postnatal class for mum and baby in the ‘fourth trimester’ to help you learn how to use baby massage and movement to aid calming, soothing and connection with your baby. Our unique fourth trimester mum and baby class draws on elements of baby massage, baby yoga, postnatal movement and baby care education to create one very powerful combination. From easing infant ailments, aiding their development, adapting to your postnatal body and easing in to your new role amongst friends – we’ve got you covered.

Daisy Baby Wrigglers– A weekly class for mum and baby to help you learn how to use a variety of tools such as: baby massage, baby yoga, rhythm, rhyme, story and (baby) sensory experiences to aid your baby’s development, your connection and have fun together! Our unique mum and baby class draws on elements of baby massage, baby yoga, rhythm and rhyme and baby sensory experiences to create one very powerful combination. From easing infant ailments, aiding their development, growing your connection and learning about baby’s key stages amongst friends – we’ve got you covered.

Daisy Baby Cruisers– A weekly class for mum and baby to help you learn how to use a variety of tools such as toddler yoga, rhythm, rhyme, story and (baby) sensory experiences to aid your baby’s development, your connection and learn how to embrace the chaos! Our unique mum and baby class draws on elements of toddler yoga, rhythm, rhyme, story and baby sensory experiences to create one very powerful combination. From aiding their development, learning new games, growing your connection and learning about baby’s key stages amongst friends – we’ve got you covered.

Daisy Mama – A weekly class for mums to help you relax, recharge, heal and calm both your body and mind, supporting you as you navigate this new phase of your life. Our unique mind/body movement method draws on elements of postnatal yoga, mindfulness, pelvic floor recover,  mind/body movement and relaxation to create one very powerful combination. From calming your mind, adapting to your healing body, settling your emotions and replenishing your reserves – we’ve got you covered.

IF YOU SEE CLASSES ARE PASSWORD PROTECTED THIS IS ONLY FOR A FEW DAYS TO ALLOW CURRENT CLASS ATTENDEES TO REBOOK THEIR SPACES. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE NOTIFIED WHEN GENERAL BOOKING OPENS PLEASE MESSAGE ME BETH-OWEN@THEDAISYFOUNDATION.COM OR ON 07521 280133